A Gentleman's Guide to Being a Sweet BoyfriendDid you know that one of
the most common complaints of women about men is the male kind’s inability to
being sweet? Oh and don’t take this research result lightly – experience tells
us that not a few couples have broken up because the ladies could not live with
stony personalities and men whose capacity to become sweet to their girlfriends
is at the level of earthworms.
So you say you’re sweet. But did your girlfriend ever confirm it? Can your girlfriend even see the slightest hints of sweetness in your bone? DO you even know what’s sweet?
Whether or not you’re a self-confessed stony person or your girlfriend has been firing hints at you for being non-passionate and totally unsweet, this one’s for you. Here’s your starter’s guide to being a sweet boyfriend:
- Do not be so harsh on yourself. Some guys just give up and not even try. And then they end up calling themselves stonehearted or something as cold as that. Don’t be. We aren’t all cut from the same tree so there must be a reason why you’re just not sweet. Those naturally romantic kids had sugar on their tongue when they were born so don’t compare yourself with them – not even when your girl compares you with them. Just recognize the fact that you are unsweet and more importantly, recognize the need to change yourself especially if it’s to save your relationship.
- Be comfortable with the idea of being sweet. I’ve seen people cringe at the thought of saying ‘I love you’ in public, or even cuddling in private. If you’re one of those men, here’s a little something for you: dude, it is TOTALLY OKAY to be sweet. You can baby talk your girlfriend if that’s her thing. You can send her flowers everyday – trust me it won’t make her barf! Being sweet does not make you any less manly; au contraire my friend! It makes you an awesome lover!
- Start by being grateful. You know what I think is the only other thing that can be as sweet as ‘I love you’? Thank you. If you cannot be too comfortable yet with showing/telling her how much you love her, start by showing her how thankful you are for having her. You are one lucky dude, she’s keeping up with your lack of sweetness! Maybe a thank-you-cake for no specific reason will start the sweet trend for you.
- Find a sweet thing to do for your girl a day. It could be waking her up with an ‘I love you’ text every morning, or sending her a sweet little note midday. Really, it does not have to be anything grand; sometimes even the smallest things are the sweetest. Hug her when you see each other at night, cook for her and serve it with a love letter or her favorite flowers; read some love poetry to her – your choices are boundless. If going public isn’t really your thing, secrets and surprises might work for you. Be creative, be diverse, try out something new every time.
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