A Case of NGSBNGSB: No Girlfriend Since
How often do we find straight men over 20 who has never had a girlfriend in their entire lives? It’s pretty hard to find a virgin in that age, let alone one who’s never had a girlfriend at all. That is why it is understandable why guys in this situation can get extremely frustrated.
For one, social stigma dictates that a girlfriend is the first stage off being a boy and most members of the male kind start as early as their pre-pubescent years. If a boy fails at this, he will risk social ridicule and female rejection when they reach past their teen years without ever having a girlfriend.
While this situation would be more easily acceptable for women, it is highly difficult in men. Men are supposed to be pursuing women as soon as they realize that they are males and the longer they take at it, the more difficult it becomes.
And because you’re reading this, there’s a 90% chance that you’re actually one of them. And you are looking for a way out of it.
Here are some tips and guidelines:
- First off, you have to realize why you are in that situation. Some men choose to wait for THE ONE. And they don’t want to waste their time and energy with someone unless they want to settle down with that person. Others are way too shy to ask women out and they let themselves believe that they are no good types of men and that no woman would want them (aka a case of insecurities). And still, others, they have seen something bad in their lifetime that makes them scared of women and getting into relationships unconsciously. There are those, still, who are simply happy with being single that they aren’t really bothered by their NGSB status – but this article is not for them. When you’ve figured out what brings you to this situation, you can then try to figure out what to do about it.
- Ask an honest and trusted female friend about what she thinks about you – a woman-to-man kind of conversation. Make sure she will give you an honest opinion. And while the truth hurts, you need to swallow it like a man. Take it like a good and constructive criticism to help improve yourself. Again, take it like a man. (PS: do not take the criticism of women in your family – no, not Mommy, not Grammy, and none of your sisters. Their opinion of you is clouded with love it won’t ever come close to the opinion of the women you try to hit on.
- Be more confident about yourself. You’ve never had a girlfriend before, so what? It’s so much better than being a player and breaking girls’ hearts everywhere. It’s so much better than having one-night-stands every single night. It’s better than being a douchebag! You – all NGSB you – are so much better than most other guys around and you have so much to offer to your future girlfriend! Don’t let peer pressure and frustration get the best of you and rob you of your confidence.
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