The Silver Lining
But hey, everyone gets to take a shot at the silver lining! Everyone deserves a second chance at love and life. So when you’re ready to set foot into the dating scene again, let me arm you with very useful tips into your re-entry into the singles world:
Reconnect with friends you have not seen in a while. This is hitting two birds with one stone. One, you are introducing and surrounding yourself with people who are outside of the social circle you shared with your ex-wife. And two, it is a perfect excuse to go out and socialize. Who knows, your friend may tag along some co-worker or you bump into a really attractive lady at the wine bar and…well, the possibilities are endless my friend.
Tell your children about your plan to date . Being honest with your children is always healthy. Tell them how badly you felt over the divorce – that you were hurt as much as they - but that you need to start over. Somehow, make it sound like you’re trying to get their permission. When my mother started dating again, the line that sold me out was always, ‘Do you want me to grow old alone? You’ll have your own life someday and I should too…’Try it. It works. It's honest and it's, well, guilt-tripping! Hah!
Know your age limit. Man, if you can, please try to keep within 7 or 10 years of your age. It wouldn’t be healthy for you or your children if you date someone who is practically your kids’ age. I’ve seen countless divorcees in their 50s date 18 year olds – to the horror of their 20-something kids. Getting involved with someone your age and level of maturity is more likely to get you into a longer lasting relationship.
Avoid hopping from one woman to another in front of your children. If your kid sees you PDA-ing with a different girl every weekend, you're setting a bad example. Yes, I understand the excitement and the hormones but, at least try NOT to take home all the girls you meet. You’d lose your kids’ respect, trust me.
Past Is Past
The dating scene is for everyone. Your past should not hinder you from moving on. It shouldn't define the future, too. So go out there champ!D Don't just overdo it, okay? Good luck!